In the beginning, this blog was born of a desire to share the ins and outs of life in our little family of three, in all its messy reality. For a while now, I’ve also been thinking of branching off into writing coaching content. My working life has involved coaching, supporting people and giving advice and guidance for longer than I care to think about (OK, 20 years or so). I’ve also been at the receiving end of counselling and coaching at various points in my adult life.
However, several things got in the way. I thought I’d need to set up a completely different profile, not associated with me or the Magic Number Three. When I attempted to do this, good old Imposter Syndrome raised its head. I make no secret of the fact that I am often disorganised, forgetful, clumsy, impulsive and irrational. So who am I to be giving advice to others?
For years I’ve swung between wanting to use my experience online to help people, versus entertaining them and making them feel better about themselves by being honest about my struggles in parenting and life. Why not do both at once? I don’t believe we need to be perfect to give advice. Perfection is unrealistic, unattainable, demoralising and looks too much like hard work. I’d rather hear from someone who understands what it’s like to flounder, learn through trial error, rather than someone who makes me feel lacking in comparison to them.
I’m sure there must be others out there who feel the same way I do. Do you ever get zone minutes on your Fitbit while you’re getting everyone ready and out of the house in the morning because it’s so stressful? Are you always embarking on new systems which you’re sure will be the missing piece this time, following advice on how to get organised, lose weight or get your house tidy, only to fall by the wayside when you realise the ideal is so far away from where you’re at right now?
From a coaching perspective, I’m interested in the small changes that make life a little bit easier. When doing housework, our well used phrase is ‘Well, it’s better than it was!’. To me, that’s what good guidance should achieve, making your life better than it was in small increments. Not feeling that you have to change y0ur fundamental nature and become a new you because the you that you are is pretty great, actually. Just making tweaks that make life run that bit more smoothly and give you a little extra time, energy, space and motivation to do the things that make you, you!